Hey ladies, welcome back and if you're new welcome! I hope you guys had a productive week. Today, I decided to write about personal boundaries. Personal boundaries are necessary. They will allow you to take better care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally. One of the best ways to have respectful, caring, and healthy relationships with your partner, family, and friends is by creating personal boundaries because, nowadays, people will have you all the way fucked up if you don't establish them.
Let's define personal boundaries for people who might not know them or understand them. Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe, and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences, and social learning. Thank you, Wikipedia! Now let's move on! Personal boundaries help you become independent and confident you learn to be true to yourself. Some are afraid to set them because they are needy or codependent, but what we need to realize is when someone loves you they will respect you and be understanding of your boundaries, if not you better speak up or keep them at a distance because you will end up used, manipulated, and violated. Protect yourself learn when to say yes and how to say no. Personal boundaries equal self-love and self-respect, help you filter what's acceptable and what isn't in your life. Setting them will allow you to be in tune with yourself to know what you want and need without fear of judgment.
They are a few ways you can find out your personal boundaries and set them. Here are three ways:
1. Self-awareness (Pay attention to places, people, or things that drain you and give you energy.)
2. Self-priority (Put yourself first.)
3. Self-assertive ( Be simple and direct state what you know to be true to you.)
The moment, you establish personal boundaries. You will see how much stability and control you will have over your life. You will end up losing some people but, always remember its better to lose people than to lose yourself.
Leaving you queens with some quotes about personal boundaries and see you next week!
Taye Diggs
”I’ve always been attracted to women who are assertive and have confidence. They don’t play games. They know what they want, and they’re not afraid to tell you,”
Tracee Ellis Ross
“To me self-care does not mean going to the spa. It’s learning to say no. It’s knowing yourself so you can make choices that are an expression of you,"
Shonda Rhimes
“No is a complete sentence,"
Gabrielle Union
“I swear to God, the second I learned how to say ‘no,’ I felt that was the best anti-aging I could do for myself,"
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